on a textual level, a female character can dress however she wants and shouldn’t be slut-shamed and hated for what she prefers to wear.
on a metatextual level, she might still have been designed with an intention to provide fanservice.
this means that criticising a design, as opposed to a character, is neither misogyny nor slut-shaming. being displeased about the way a character has been designed is not synonymous with hating her.
iām tired of vaguing about it. watching you people post about and idolize bts is the most irritating thing and even more because iām black. everyone knows theyāre racist. itās fucking known that the leader has said the n word. itās known theyāve worn cornrows and have been called cool when weāre called dirty and ghetto. itās known that theyāve appropriated our culture multiple times. not to mention that photoshoot. and itās even worse because i know yāall act like theyāre all pure n shit (which is a whole other type of racist stereotype) and then turn around and call us scary and ghetto. and on top of this? stop using aave. iām especially tired of being told i sound like a kpop stan because i use language my community created.
((ok to reblog, donāt add on if you arenāt black))
native american appropriation (theyve also made fun of native american names, but the video has long since been deleted)Ā
also worth mentioning: if youāre nonblack its not your place toĀ āforgiveā bts for the thing theyve done. you cant forgive them for any of their antiblack shit because guess what? youre not black. be quiet.
Just say you donāt care what antiblackness is done as long as you get to listen to some pretty boys sing and go
One last hot take and then I’ll shut up: the reason adhd is framed first and foremost as a learning disability when it is in fact more apt to call it an emotional processing disorder is bc our society is only concerned w the ways neurological disorders impede a person’s ability to “function” aka get a job and contribute positively to capitalist society. How adhd affects interpersonal behaviors and emotional health is only relevant insofar as it relates to a person’s level of societal functioning PERIOD. There is no interest in improving our actual livelihoods
This is why girls are often not diagnosed w adhd until they are much older, bc they are forced to develop certain social awareness and self-surveillance capacities at an extremely young age and thus don’t perform “poorly” in the areas usually looked at to signify the disorder. But that doesn’t mean girls don’t take that distress out thru other avenues, just that the many alternative iterations of the disorder are ignored by professionals bc they don’t matter as far as society is concerned, as long as a girl is performing “well enough”
you know i hate tumblrs “i hope they do something problematic” shit so much? its not only with people like thomas sanders or john mulaney or that comic guy with the bike, but with whole ass shows and projects? like nobody ever said b99 is cop propaganda. nobody was saying that until one single person mentioned it and suddenly its the worst show you could watch because of one aspect of their show, while ignoring the shows diversity and political stances.
same happened to dream daddy, like you cant deny that that game was groundbreaking for the lgbt society, but suddlenly some people started shit like ‘uhhh but 5 years ago the game grumps made transphobic jokes’ and ‘you know that joesph is actually a satanist, right?’ and suddenly no one talked about the game anymore?
everytime someone tries their fucking best to be inclusive, diverse etc. people are digging through everything they can find just to justify that they dont like it? overwatch recently hosted a huge event to raise money for breast cancer research in association with the BCRF and without even doing one second of research people accused them of working with the susan g. komen foundation (which wasnt true) and tried to boycott a fucking charity event?
what im saying is, dont let tumblr ruin everything you love because they are bitter
the other day i saw some discourse that was like “if a lesbian is a terf she’s still a lesbian and belongs in lesbian spaces”
and i kinda had to stop and i was like…. “no. no she don’t” lmfao because like. lesbian spaces are built on love and support and safety and i can bet you there’s gonna be trans girls in that space who are not gonna be feeling any love support or safety if there’s a fucking terf there.
yes she’s a lesbian but does she deserve to be in our lesbian spaces??? fuck no and i will absolutely be the first to kick her ass to the curb. lesbian trans sisters over lesbian terfs everyday, all day.
y’all hate and exclude us from pride stuff, but as soon as you see something lesbians have/done (useless lesbian jokes, the flag situation, femme/butch dynamics and our slur) y’all feel entitled to them and find them funny. straight girls calling themselves butch just because they wear hoodies and pants, gay men using dyke freely like it’s some fun word they can use, jokes about our flag situation, etc. you aren’t entitled to our culture/issues especially when you don’t even actually care about us
anyway y’all have no problem when gay men doing drag use she/her but as soon as lesbians use he/him it’s suddenly a problem and a huge contradiction
realise that gender is part and parcel of heterosexuality and so lesbians necessarily navigate gender entirely differently than straight women
i think the “lesbians can’t use he/him” is absolutely implicit in wanting to keep us in a womanhood defined and ruled by heterosexuality. once we start to display us doing gender for ourselves, challenging and living with toxic heterosexual femininity: he/him lesbians, butches, etc. that’s when it gets out of hand for y’all
lesbians rejecting a womanhood that ties them to men because of gender, because of heterosexuality is not a bad thing, it’s not a contradiction, it makes perfect sense.
the policing of he/him lesbians is ironically completely bound up in misogyny: an anxiety to let lesbians do what they want and not consider men/heterosexuality and do gender on their own in their own way
same goes for the weirdness a lot of people have about “lesbians can’t be nb”
like lol yes they can
the move to always try and tie lesbians back on to a strict defined sense of womanhood makes lesbians parsable as Women in a purely heterosexual conception
if lesbians can’t be easily understood as women, then the male gaze can’t fetishise us, objectify us, make us two girls kissing for the pleasure of men. it’s a way of escape & of dealing with gendered trauma & of enacting subjectivity
not to Hot Take on yalls asses but the reason this site is so grossly lesbophobic while simultaneously thinking lesbians are treated like queens here is that this site is the first time most of these clowns have seen a large group of lesbians just existing, much less talking about love, sex, life, feminism, oppression, and community without being made the butt of somebody’s joke or being too afraid of seeming predatory or man-hating to talk about those things. most of them (and a lot of us even) have never seen a community where this many lesbians exist freely and openly and talk about whatever the fuck we want and there’s too many of us on here for them to shut us all up or give us the boot so they have to put up with it and that comes off as ~lesbian privilege~ to dweebs who have never been outside a day in their life
Controversial opinion: if more people actually read up on bisexual history and bothered to interact with bisexuals irl instead of making assumptions about us, I don’t believe as many people would id as pansexual
The majority of pan people I know started out IDing as bi, the implication that we were all doing so in a vacuum and didn’t understand our own identity properly is pretty rude.
I don’t have a problem with people id'ing as pan, but I do see a large number of people coming out as pan on the basis that somehow bisexuality is “uninclusive” without any regard to actual bisexual history, activism, or community. If pansexuality wasn’t so publicly defined as a more “progressive” version of bisexuality as if we do not include trans/intersex people, it’s not wrong to question if less people would call themselves pan instead of bi. There is something also to be said about the continued stigma around the term bisexual itself, as a reason why some people will not identify with the bisexual community.
the “___ change my mind” guy sitting at a desk is Steven Crowder who is literally a deep conservative “comedian” and the biggest transphobe of 2018 so can we NOT use that meme anymore thanks. he literally calls trans people tr**** in some of his videos and refers to caitlyn jenner (I may not like her but Christ) as a transgender f@scist because she transitioned and refers to her transitioning as “going full #sjw.” this meme is cancelled and not funny. use google if you don’t believe me. bye
yeah actually i did some research (googling. i googled) and this is what the the original image was: (as opposed to what i first saw it as and what other might have, and had assumed that was the real one)
he does stuff like that a lot;
so yeah Yikes.
Shit, I just looked him up as well.
Fucking YIKES, meme cancelled.
FYI. Don’t reblog or make any more memes from this guy. Fucking creep.
we know hes a shitty person, the whole reason the meme started was to make fun of him
While it’s not the meme I’m best comfortable with, it’s making a mockery of his disingenuous posturing and I am all for that.
I gotta agree with @tharook here. Making fun of Crowder’s posturing and psuedo-intellectual bullshit more than makes the meme worth it.
Plus there’s a good chance that the next time he shows up at a college with a “Change My Mind” sign, all the college students will burst out laughing, so that’s good.
I AM NOT
A MEME
Change my Mind
Exactly. turning him into a viral joke is a powerful way of disenfranchizing him to the general population who are unaware of him. if the joke gets to people first, they will dismiss him as that meme guy if they come across him and are not already polarized one way or another on the issue
yall: non binary is a broad spectrum of identities and pronouns arent gendered! you are valid! nb girl: im non binary but i consider myself at least partially a girl, and not a man at all! so i’m a nb girl, and as a nb girl who loves girls exclusively, i’m a non binary lesbian! i also use he/him pronouns cus im still non binary/i’m butch/other pronouns dont work for me for whatever reasons/its literally my choice and none of your business yall: umm i hope you die Also pronouns are gendered after all and Also non binary actually only means you dont have a gender at all and Nb Girls/Boys don’t exist bc thats identifying with the Binary Also only the people i approve of are valid it turns out
The problem is, you identify makes no sense. Sorry but it doesn’t. Make up your mind.
The problem is, I didn’t ask for your opinion. Sorry but i didn’t. Your teeth are mine now.
Your identity makes no sense. You say you’re not a man at all, yet you use male pronouns? I am confused.
